This installment onto my Dating Wall of Degenerate Hopefuls is going to be a quick one (kids are non-stop up my ass and they know when I sit down within 30-seconds of my ass hitting the chair).
I ventured onto eHarmony a month ago and have been talking to a few people on and off. So far I don’t really feel anything for any of the people I am in contact with. Most seem to just seem a bit boring and I can’t tell if they really are boring or if I am just tired of reading the same generic profile. Needless to say, I am not dismissing anyone outright and have been checking out those who have contacted me.
The most recent one initially broke Rule No. 9 on my list (never really sees kids). He filled his profile out as “I don’t have kids”, but all of his profile pictures contain a boy around the age of 7 or so. I had thought maybe a nephew or something until I read further down in his profile that he had a son who lived in Florida. He said he goes down once a month to see his son and had hoped his match would understand that. Now I don’t want to come off as judgmental but I do understand that long distance between you and your child must be very hard. I think its great that this guy is making a huge effort to see his son. I am sure emotionally and financially it must be a huge challenge. Given this I responded to his contact communication request to me.
If you are not familiar with eHarmony, communication between two people starts off as a series of multiple choice questions, then you send each other a list of 1o Must Have and 10 Can’t Stand traits in a relationship, then your send a few opened ended questions, THEN you can send emails to each other. Its a long process and so far once I got to the email stage I was even more bored with the person, LOL. Ok, so back to my story…
With this guy I mentioned above, when we got to the Must Have/Can’t Stand list stage what struck out most clearly was this:
I think its safe to say that every guy wants a woman who they feel is great in bed. No guy is going to go out of his way for a girl who sucks in bed, LOL. Saying you want someone who is “sexually knowledgeable” is stating the obvious and coming off as a creep.
So take note guys, sometimes stating the obvious is not a good thing, and in this case was a HUGE a turn off.